#MoreThanAMutha is all about celebrating the things that women are, as well as being amazing mothers. In a world where many women feel like they lose their identity when they become a mum, it is important to celebrate and shout that we might be mums, but we are not only that and we are still a force to be reckoned with.
What makes you more than a mother?
I think every mum is a ‘more than mutha’ no matter what we are doing or how big our family is we are juggling, on a daily/hourly basis! I’m a mum to three boys, 8, 5 and nearly 2. I work part time, 3 days a week for a Charity which I love. I then have my other businesses which I feel passionately about. I make children’s dribble bibs and other toddler apparel, something I’ve been doing since my middle boy was about 6 months old.
I am a baby wearing consultant, so I help families to carry their babies/children safely and comfortably. I have been a Tropic Skin Care Ambassador for just over a year now, using products which are cruelty free, vegan and 100% naturally derived. Free from chemicals, synthetic fragrances, and parabens. Safe for my family and the environment.
Are people surprised when they realise you are more than a mum? Does that bother you?
YES! friends and family do wonder how I manage to do everything that I do, I think I wonder sometimes too. I have lots of interests, its important for me to acknowledge them, and make some time to enjoy these things. My family does come first of course, but to be a good mum I need this ‘Emma’ time.
What challenges do you face when you’re juggling motherhood and being more than a mum?
How long did it take you to remember you were more than a mother after you had your child(ren)?
We had our last baby in July 2016, I love being a mum and my favourite part is those early days, where they are so dependent on you, so tiny and I can wrap them up on my skin in a sling and focus on that bonding time. They grow and change so quickly, and it happens quicker each time. I think I focus so heavily on those first few years, until they become a little more independent, that its only now I’m coming out the other side again. I’m breastfeeding my youngest still (why do I say still like I shouldn’t be) which I’m 100% fine with. We are at a point we can go out for an evening and a close friend or family member can put him to bed. So yes, I think after a few years with each of them I started to feel like I could reach out and find my own identity again.
Who, or what, helps you to make time for yourself? What do you do to escape the stresses of motherhood?
My husband is great, he will happily have all three, or do bedtime duties on his own if I need to head off to a pamper or consult. We are a team, and we do share things, he might not always do things in the same way I would, but they get done! Friends are very important too, always good to catch up over a glass of wine or a G&T!
What advice would you offer a mum who might not be feeling like they are more than someones mum right now?
We judge ourselves the most I think, we may worry what others are thinking about us, but I think we do put the most pressure on ourselves. I think things are changing though, or maybe its with time I am realising who those people are that I want to have around me? Take each day as it comes, its a new day, let go of the negatives from the previous day and start a fresh.
Any advice for someone who is going through the same things as you are right now in their quest to be #MoreThanAMutha?
Just do what feels right for you, seek those that will support you, help you, give you that hug or glass of wine when its the end of a long week. Its important to give yourself the time and space to do something that’s just for you, whether that’s some time focused to your own business, a walk, a pamper, reading a book, 10 minutes alone in the bathroom without being pestered by the family! You are enough, you are doing a great job, cut yourself some slack!
Who would you like to see featured next in the #MoreThanAMutha series?
Have lots of people I would love to see, bit hopefully they will nominate themselves after having a read through of the interviews and be inspired!
Are you #MoreThanAMutha? Get in touch to share your story.